Feeling very alone

[ginger77]

Hello I’m new to here…
I have a daughter who is 21 with Learning and physical difficulties…
I can’t work as I am needed to take her to and from college and have nobody to help with that.
I feeling very alone lately and wondered if there was any groups that help people like myself make friends with others in similar situations
Thanks in advance

[vectis]

Have you heard of SENTAS? Special Educational Needs Transport Advisory Service? I hadn’t either until this week. People with special needs apparently have a RIGHT to free transport to access education until the age of 25.

[alanwpickup]

I do not know what part of the Country you are in but there should be a Carers Service in most places. I became isolated because of my caring role for my father who had dementia and my son who has a LD. My local Carers Service ran a support group for Carers of relatives with LD and I started going to this and attending activities they provide. I have since become Chair of Trustees and find plenty of interests and friends to fit in around my caring role.The Carers Trust website Carers.org are the national group for Carer organisations and have a search facility on their website to find your nearest partner organisation.

Hope you find a group near you

Regards

[pollyanna3]

Hello, I read your post and understand how you feel. I have a daughter, she is 37, her disabilities mean we don’t seem to fit in any particular group! She is blind, with some learning, medical problems and on the autistic spectrum. Hopefully you will find a group local to you where you can chat with other parents whose children have similar special needs. In the meantime just knowing you are not alone helps a bit.

[ginger77]

Really I’ll look into that Thankyou

[ginger77]

Hi Thankyou for your message …
I’ve always seemed to cope I think it’s because Chloe is older now I feel really lonely…
I have a good family support but feel I don’t want to put on them all the time and would love to meet people so me and Chloe can do our own thing with friends…

[ginger77]

Hello thanks for your reply
I have heard of this and not really looked into it
I will see if there is any groups like that in my area
I just need to be part of something.
I was Carer also for my Gran up until she sadly passed in October.
I think we were so busy with gran and now we have so much time to fill
Jane

[SarahL]

Hello @ginger77

Welcome to FamilyHub and thank you for posting. Please feel free to carry on posting on here - it can be about anything, or can just be about you letting off a bit of steam.

Have you ever thought about volunteering? It can be a great way to meet new people and get out of the house. It doesn’t have to be a huge commitment, just a couple of hours a week. Just a thought

@alanwpickup’s suggestion to get in touch with your local carers centre is a great idea. Where I live the local centre is very active and offers all sorts of meetings and activities.

Finally, are there any other parents dropping of at college where you take your daughter? I just wondered if any of them might be feeling the same way?

All the best
Sarah

[ginger77]

Thankyou for your reply Sarah…
All really good ideas…
I’ve felt a bit better this week
Chloe goes to college and the holidays are always a struggle because she wants to be busy all the time…
Jane