Son won't come home

[Crazy2019]

My 18 year old son won’t come home. Last month we were visiting family other end of country and he ran out of Internet data… He decided to smash up the house we were staying at… Anyway he ran off after doing this ( we were out property at time) he called police and in end they took him round to my exs family… He’s saying he doesn’t wish to return home and social services said he was moving back to my area and he’ll need some identification and they be in touch to collect… However when he meant to arrive I heard nothing since… Even called up social services and they not returning my call. He’s rather vulnerable ( autism and he was actually sectioned last year too) tends to have melt down over slightest little thing yet a big issue doesn’t concern him… If he’s not being bothered and upset he doesn’t care. I think my exs family are playing games too, chopping and changing his mind being manipulative as they are like that. The childrens father had a no direct contact order but obviously eldest 18 so doesn’t apply… What can I do about this whole situation?

[frances_is_a_sibling]

Hi @Crazy2019 that sounds really tough. I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through - your Son sounds really distressed right now, and you must be too. I think you’re doing everything you can by liaising with social services about this. You’re right that because he is 18, it is his choice - but you can still pass on your concerns to the social worker that you think your ex’s family might be manipulating him and that he might be vulnerable to this. It’s really hard when you have no information from social services and when they’re not keeping you up to date with what’s going on. Be persistent and keep calling them. I hope they get back to you soon.